Welp, you guys know the reason why I'm writing this, but I was curious so I had to.
I found a website that a religious Islamic person would give answers to people who have questions that they worry about so I'd like to share some of the questions and answers some people had. these are questions from absolute anonymous people who have similar questions as me and these people have written some of their stories and why they are asking these questions.
Q1. If you are attracted to someone one who is non-Muslim, is it wrong to make dua to Allah to guide them, such that once they are Muslim you could marry them?
I understand that becoming Muslim should not be done for the sake of marriage in itself, yet what is the position of Muslim men praying for the guidance of non-Muslim women in order to marry them. I understand that one should become Muslim for the sake of Allah, but it would be nice if they were to become Muslim, because then marrying them would be possible. But, please don’t get me wrong. One should always pray to Allah to guide non-muslims, but what is the process when someone you would like to marry is not Muslim, and you would like them to be for two reasons: 1) Islam is the CORRECT religion; 2) As a Muslim you can marry?
(p.s. dua means a prayer; wish)
Almighty Allah Ta’ala creates means for a persons guidance to Islam and the
staight path. Marrying a muslim male serves as a means of a non-muslim
female’s guidance to Islam. Therefore it is correct to make dua for a
non-muslim female to accept Islam. to be able to marry her as a muslim. We
advise that marriage is a major step in life and one must exercise extreme
precaution in choosing his marriage partner. Non-compatibility between the
spouses may lead to grief and agony and in many instances have lead to the
marriage breaking down.
Q2.I am a Muslim girl who married a Christian, what should I do?
I am 32 years old, I waited until i was 29 to get married, my parent were in no rush. I always wanted to marry a Muslim so I did. He was Muslim in name but told me afterward that he was an agnostic. He also believed having sex with others was ok. I was very upset and decided that this marriage was wrong. We separated and he did not want to work things out. I was all alone as i had moved from london to england and went into depression. I met a nice boy who married me sincerely. He is a good person with good morals. i am teaching him about islam and he is willing to learn.He has accepted that when we have kids they will be brought up as muslims. we have been married nearly 1 and half years. Will i go to hell for this. Should i have stayed with someone who in name was muslim but was an agnostic?
You have acted correctly by separating from the agnostic. It appears that you then married a Christian. If so, your second marriage is invalid as it is not permissible for a Muslim female to marry a non-Muslim male. We advise that he accept Islam and thereafter marry him according to Islamic rites.
Q3.Can a non-Muslim man get married to a Muslim woman?
I would like to ask a question about a muslim woman wanting to marry a non muslim man in Australia. We want to have as much muslim influence in the ceramony out of respect to her and her family, but I keep hearing there is no way of doing this? I have heard of a guy who changed to muslim just to get married but to me that is disrespectful to the muslim faith, to her family and I do not want to do that as it would be wrong. Is there any parts of the marriage that can have prayers etc for her and her family. I am all for it in our service, but am lost with what can and can’t be done as I have heard in the USA there are clerics that would do this? If there was the same here in Sydney Australia I would love to know them.
A Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man.[1] The marriage will be invalid. Having Muslim influence or prayers in such a marriage will be of no avail. The marriage will remain invalid. If any Muslim cleric conducts a Muslim prayer, that does not alter the prohibition. The practice of the Muslim cleric will be wrong.
If the non-Muslim man accepts Islam, then the marriage will be valid. The man’s acceptance of Islam should not be regarded as an administrative move to merely fulfil a condition of the marriage being valid. He must truly accept Islam. If the non-Muslim man claims he truly accepted Islam then that is sufficient. Now it is matter between him and Allah. Our advice is refer to a local imam that specializes in dawah to explain to him Islam and attempt to make him accept Islam
Q4.Should I Marry a Man Ready to Convert to Islam For Me?
I am a Muslim women and I pray and fast. I am in a relationship with a Christian man who is willing to convert because he thinks all religions are the same. I fear that his background isn’t similar to mine. He is a man of honor, his mom is a spiritual christian, almost all his friends are. Even if he converted for us to marry it is very confusing and upsetting. What should I do?
It seems that in a way you may know the answer to your own question. Clearly, the man you are thinking of marrying is not serious about Islam as a guiding faith but merely as a way to marry you. As someone who takes her faith seriously, it is inevitable that you will run into serious problems by marrying someone who does not view Islam in the same light as you do.
You need to give priority to your religion over a temporary worldly relationship that might undermine your beliefs and practice. This relationship will only last a finite amount of time, while the next world is never ending. When given a choice between the two, a believer chooses the latter and does not compromise his religious beliefs for fleeting worldly pleasures and desires.
In the moment, this might seem like an extremely agonizing decision. However, this is the worldly test that all of us must go through. Remember the words of the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him), “Verily, you will never leave something for God except He will replace it with something better.” [Musnad Ahmad] Similarly, the Quran states, “And whosoever fears God, He will make for them a way out.” (65:2)
Marriage is a serious matter. It is deciding on who you wish to spend the rest of your life with, who you wish to have a family with, someone who you want to be your spiritual support, and so forth. You should choose someone who is compatible with your religious background and supportive of your religious practice.
In light of this, I would advise you that as things stand, you should move on from this relationship. It might seem difficult and painful but eventually you will get past it. Pray to God for the good of this world and the next, trust in Him, and remember that we all live for something greater than this world.
Q5.Can a Christian man marry a Muslim woman after converting to Islam?
I want guidance in the issue regarding my friend. He is a Christian and he loves a Muslim girl who loves him also. They were working together and liked each other very much that they decided to get married. They have known each other for 4 years and the girls’ family agree to the marriage; but only after the boys’ conversion to Islam. The girl asked my friend to convert and he agreed. After converting to Islam, they will marry. The boy is converting to Islam. Please tell us what would be the status of the Nikah according to Shariah? Would it be lawful according to Islam?
In principal, a Muslim woman is only permitted to marry a Muslim man.[1] Based on this, if your friend accepts Islam, it will be permissible for the girl in question to marry him. You should encourage your friend to accept Islam as soon as possible and not to wait until the time of marriage. You should also
take this as an opportunity to teach him about the beauty and splendour of Islam.
It is also important to keep in mind that man should not just convert to Islam for marriage; he must sincerely and genuinely accept Islam.
Q6.Love for a Non-Muslim Man & Inviting Him to Islam
What are the rules on marriage with a non-Muslim man? Is it permissible for a Muslim lady to even speak to a non-Muslim man (from her past life) and to introduce Islam to him? And is it wrong to have love for this person after accepting Islam? Is there something she can do to cure her heart? Also, what should one do if they want to get married but cant, due to reasons like parents not stressing it or not giving it attention? Does this mean marriage isnt for her?
I wasn’t quite clear on what obstacles to marriage you are facing, but let me try to address the points you have raised.
First, it sounds like you are still in love with someone you knew before you became Muslim. While you certainly cannot control your feelings, you can control what you do with them. It may be difficult to be rational about this, but what is the basis for the attraction you feel? If you are meant to be with this person, then Allah will guide him to Islam. No amount of da’wah you give is going to make a difference. And given how emotional you are about this, it is best not to speak to this person. Why put yourself through that kind of heartache? If he’s genuinely interested in Islam, there are a number of resources he could seek out.
Second, ask Allah to give you what is best. Ask Allah to guide this person to Islam and let you marry him if it is best for your deen and dunya. And ask Allah to remove this attachment from your heart if this person is not the best for your deen and dunya. It was reported that the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, used to say, “O Allah, o controller of hearts and eyes, make my heart firm upon your religion.” You should make this dua, keep constant with your prayers, and always strive to be in a state of remembrance of Allah.
Third, it’s very premature to conclude that marriage is not for you. And while lack of a Muslim community or Muslim family members poses a problem, there are ways around this. However, before you even consider trying to find a Muslim husband, you need to resolve your feelings for this individual. You can’t seriously discuss marriage with a Muslim brother when you have these feelings about someone from your past.
Q7.Accepting Islam for marriage
Hello, I am a girl living in a Muslim country and had a Muslim boyfriend. We’d been together for a little over a year, but he broke up with me saying he can’t marry me because I’m not Muslim and even if I convert, not practicing Muslim actions will not be accepted by his family. Im from Japan and grow up in a free thinker family but I do have my own sense of God and I believe there’s only one god. I have watched Dr. Naik Zakir videos and he stated that a man is Muslim from the moment he startbelieving Allah and accept Mohammed as final prophet. But my ex boyfriend said it’s not too true and I have to pray 5 times a day to be a Muslim. I believe the connection is only between Allah and me. I believe He will understand that changing my life style drastically is not an easy work and he know that it takes time to adapt. Do you think it will being issues if I convert to Islam and marry him? Do you think me taking time to adapt prayer practice and not as religious as those who are born in Muslim families?
You state you have your own sense of God (Allah) and you believe there is only one God.
A tree grows with a root. As it grows, its roots are entrenched in the ground and its branches become huge and big while the tree bears wholesome and sweet fruits.
It is pleasing to note your belief in the existence of Allah and His Oneness. Almighty Allah placed you in a Muslim country and linked you with Islam and Muslims. This is Allah’s way of wanting to bless you with the true religion of Islam and eternal salvation with Jannat (paradise) after leaving this temporary world. Your belief in the Oneness of Allah is the root of Islam. You should water and nourish the roots of your belief in Allah and make your belief grow to practice Islam and enjoy the fruits of Islam.
Sister, we advise you to value your present situation and accept Islam for the value and peace that it offers in an individual if one truly practices on Islam. In order for a person to be a Muslim one should belief in the fundamental aspects of Islam which areBelief in Allah
Belief in the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and other messengers of Allah (peace be upon them all)
Praying Salah 5 times a day
Belief in Jannah (paradise) and Jahannam (hell)
Fasting in the month of Ramadan
Giving Zakat once a year (if eligible)
Going for Hajj once in a life time. (if eligible)
Belief in His angels
Belief in His scriptures
Belief in life after death
If you have the above beliefs and proclaim them, you are a Muslim. If you marry a Muslim, your marriage will be valid.
A Muslim is required to perform Salah. We understand the transit into Islam and the need to adapt to that. The Muslim man you refer to should understand that. However, some people are sensitive to family values and reach to such situations.
We advise you to consider the broader picture of accepting Islam and your personal benefit in doing so. Bring the courage to accept Islam. We believe you will be a happier person as a Muslim if you truly accept and practice Islam.
By @GalacticGam3r37
