As you may call yourself you, others say your them, it just goes round doesn't it. No life would be different without it.

We may make words like: "buddy, pal or just by your usual name" but its when you are un liked by someone which then they start gossiping and calling you him/her or them (them as in a group of people they don't like).

I hope you realise this situation now is a matter you should use in future life.
Thankyou xxx