People don't take self-harmers seriously. The don't understand how much pain they are in. In fact, the underestimate how much pain they are in. Don't they realize how upset someone might be to drag that blade across their skin? Don't they realize how miserable someone must be to lock themselves somewhere and burn themselves? Don't they realize how cheerless someone must be to raise their hand up into the air and slam it against their body, time and time again until they are covered in bruises? No they don't. They shouldn't joke about things like that, they shouldn't overlook people that do that to themselves. In fact, they should help them, not disrespect those people, they are quite obviously in so much pain. They shouldn't tell them to do it, it doesn't mean anything. They do it as release, for that moment, they forget all their problems, everything, all they can focus on is inflicting the pain. It's terrible, it's saddening and it's scary.. It's self-harm. Those two words. Self-harm, they're actually quite powerful, if you really go into it. They are so miserable that they turn to harming themselves to get away from it. It's no joke so they shouldn't treat it like one.