So I was going through the blog section(as I always do) and I checked out COMMANDER's blog title "Open minded?" or something like that and I, myself, love debating, proving a point, and sharing my thoughts with others so I naturally(Anything with a "scandalous" title/topic attracts me so very easily) clicked on it and one of the commentors was defending that fact that she's bisexual(Meaning she can love both genders) and as I was finishing up reading the comments I was left with Hullbreach's comment, the last one, and I read it all and something REALLY rubbed me the wrong way.
Hull said " "Bi" is not an orientation, just a cry for attention.", I felt insulted, as if he told me what I was feeling is fake.
I'm bisexual and got a bit pissed off and felt a sense of being let down by his comment. It made him look close minded and I was a bit shocked by his comment. It baffled me that he would say such a stupid statement.
It also annoys me that a heterosexual man thinks he knows what I'm feeling, as if he KNOWS what I'm thinking about..
Being bisexual is not some cry for help, your sexuality isn't black and white.
You're not supposed to be born either gay or straight. No in-betweens.
It's NOT that simple.
I've had crushes and "thoughts", that Ive wanted to act, about both my male and female classmates, I know I'm bisexual.
Sorry if I sound harsh and angry. I'm not mad, I just feel a bit insult and shocked. I feel as if I was forced to choose between 2 boxes that I don't quite fit in to, if you catch my drift.
I'm not trying to attack Hull I'm just trying to educate anyone with the same idea.
Anyway, I'd love to know what everyone else thinks on this topic. I hope no one is offended!
Well, while I'm not going to post my actual opinion on this matter, I will say that there is a large amount of bisexuals on this website. Though the internet is a great place to lie... Maybe hull is slightly right.
I guess it was a bit offending. How can bisexuality not be an orientation? I don't choose what attracts me, if i could chose, i would be straight. Just because of all the problems this story has caused to me. Maybe i'm just denying a possible homosexuality, but actually i can't tell.
and...About the religious part, i guess everyone has their beliefs and shoulnd't push them on who doesn't want to follow any kind of religion. So you believe that? Its Ok i do respect your religion, and any other religion. And I don't believe what you believe so don't come with "facts" or references, because that will just sound offensive.
If i respect what you believe, i guess i have the rights to be respected, right? On both sexual and religious ways.
About the "bisexual cool thing" point, well, i am not going to say its wrong. But that desn't apply do all people. Some people like to sleep with nearly everyone they see, some don't. Some barely do it, due to a high selective taste or whatever. So generalizing this subject is just telling 50% of what is true.
Since i've been a member here, which is shortly after the very first day of DSiPaint and i don't see any reasons discussions lead by mature people with "polemic" subject shouldn't be allowed. This is not a kids site, its a site for everyone. And any intelectual and organized discussion should, by logic be allowed. Kids will visit the parts of the site for them, and who wants a discussion will visit the parts of the site for them. And thats all.
Hmm... I'm torn to agree with both the Blog & Hull, but, that wouldn't be my own opinion.
But, I'm tired as hell, and while I do think WM has a point, Hull's a bit more "right" here. Being "Bi", in my opinion, though it technically is an orientation, is just saying "undecided". Hell, if asked about my orientation, I say "I'm proud to be ?????". I don't give a crap about dating or relationships these days, and I'm not concerning myself with them, soI haven't bothered to "find" myself.
I guess HullBreach the flamebait needs to explain himself since there was some misinterpretation of the issue. It's tough to explain everything in a concise textual manner, but let me do my best. You are obviously entitled to your own viewpoint and opinions, as I am. If some sexual details offend you, it may be better to not read my comments.
I'll just break it into bullet points:
* In my entire life, I have never known an adult who is truly bisexual. I have some friends who claim that they are, but that is just because a spouse likes to watch girl-on-girl action, so taking part in those types of acts just gains favor with the spouse for turn-on.
* Everyone I've known who has claimed to be bisexual during puberty years has either gone on to be straight or gay in adulthood. During puberty, we all get a rush of hormones that we don't understand. As we try to understand them, there may be a period of self-evaluation. Once that passes, we decide who we are. Yet, during that time, we want to find others like us (also going through the same thing ), so bisexuality has become that social method.
* Being bisexual is the "cool" thing for teens these days. I've never understood this one because this started a few years after I graduated. Suddenly, half of all high schoolers were bisexual. (That is barely an exaggeration. ) It was like this became the new in-crowd. This is about the time teens started wearing those colored bracelets that told all kinds of sexual acts they would do. The hypersexuality of the media could have played a part in this identity-to-be-cool trend.
* I've seen so many people who promote bisexuality on the Internet as a way to say they are "horny". If someone has a profile on FaceBook, for example, that says "I'm bi and available!", that is basically saying "I'm horny and want to rendezvous in the park!" (This same thing goes for a straight person who says something like "Hey girls, I'm available and looking." ) Are there cases aside from this? I'm sure there are. Yet, why would someone introduce him or herself first and foremost as someone who is not involved with anyone and by sexual preference in the same breath?
* From what I have heard, it is sometimes easier to tell a friend that you are "bisexual" than gay for fear of alienation. You keep telling everyone that for the same reason.
* Some people sexually "experiment" in the teen years to find who they are. During this period, the person just claims "bisexuality". Without getting that taste for a different lifestyle, there would never be thoughts of it.
I'm sure I've missed some items on this. Feel free to support me or flame me. Just do keep in mind that I think sexuality is a small part of people's lives in the general world and that only plays part in intimate relationships. Thus, I believe people are entitled to their own business and don't believe anyone should tell people what to do. I also believe that flaunting or promoting sexual preference (be it straight, gay, "bisexual", transgender, dendophiliac, necophiliac, "beastmaster", or whatever ) is a only a way of saying that you are horny.
Saying "I'm bisexual" can be long an awkward so we shorten it sometimes. I'm sure you don't say "I'm heterosexual", I'm not saying you are, just an example.
But if someone says it when the situation doesn't really call for it then yes, you want attention.
Tia, I'm not sure, I think it was someone else.
Darkfate, iwhat he said was pretty straight forward.