Bulletin Board Posts by heaven.is.a.joke

The distinguished oswaldo123 spake:

<span style="text-decoration:line-through"> Use PayPal To Buy Savii Bucks </span> O wait, that isn't there anymore :n

Paypal sucks

7/10
Sounds like it was searched on google, but is very meaningful and deep.

Wallace rolled his eyes at the idea of that, and smacked the lion upside the head and then

The distinguished Siling-La spake:

Your meditation methods may help, but they cannot fix most things. Not trying to hate on your ideas, and I certainly don't want to tell you what does and doesn't work for you, but I don't think that will help in my particular circumstances. It may bring peace and rest, but it won't change my family.

I am just currently going with it. Y'know, addressing it as it happens. It's hard to describe because it's almost always different every time.

Sometimes you cant change things, though, and relaxation is a nice break from it all, for me at least

The distinguished Siling-La spake:

The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:[quote]The distinguished Siling-La spake:The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:The distinguished Siling-La spake:The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:Welcome to Therapy! What would you like to talk about? This is a safe space.

Family problems I'm having. Is that okay to talk about here?


yes. What's going on? My family is a mess at the moment as well, so you aren't alone in that.


It's mostly my father. He is a good father, but not a good dad. He is a workaholic, he doesn't listen to me, and he constantly forces his ideas on me, and forces me to make decisions that I would never make. He also expects me to be at his beck and call, and to be ready to drop anything at any given moment just to do what he wants. My little sister seems to hate me. She is sassy and rude to me almost all day, but when she wants something from me, she is amazingly nice. As soon as she gets what she wants though, she goes back to sassy and rude, and she avoids me until she wants something from me. If I tell her no, or tell her to stop being rude, she immediately goes to my mother, and convinces her to make me cooperate with her, or she tells my mother that I am being rude, and I get punished while my sister rubs it in my face while getting what she wants. I've tried to talk to my parents about her attitude towards me, but they dismiss it, or laugh. I don't understand.



I can definitely relate, siling. My Dad Is only there for me and my sister when it is convenient to him. he works from home, yet still seems to have no time for me. it hurts. i try to explain it all to him, but it goes right through him. he won't listen. I am going through a court case rn to try and stop the visits to his house My litte sister is very unpredictable. she can be super sweet one minute and hate you the next. she's extremely sassy too, haha. I find the best way to deal with this is to not show her how much it bothers you. eventually she'll get bored and stop. My mom is very angry. she's been a victim of abuse, and can't handle stress well.. There's a lot of stress at home right now, and it's miserable. When I talk to her she snaps at me to leave her alone. If you don't already have one, try to find a family therapist to work out your issues with. If your family doesn't want family therapy, you could always choose individual therapy, which is just someone you can vent to confidentially. please don't try to bottle your emotions up, as it is extremely overwhelming when they all explode at once.

Best Wishes-

* Liz *[/quote]



Yeah. We tried counseling. Well, I did. I have ADHD, so I had a individual counseler. But there isn't much a counselor can do. You know. Most have pre-set questions and answers and just want money. There are some that help, but I really don't want someone to try to interpret my life for me, when I already get it. My family also has a great deal of stubborness and don't change their minds easily. In other words, they don't listen to the counselors.[/quote]



Preach, boi! Most councelors are only in that field for the paycheck, and have no experience outside of the book. I 100% share that opinion with you, but it works for some, so i felt like I had to mention it. Not for nothing, but my family puts on this act during therapy, and gets nasty about it when we get home.

If you're like me, which i'm 99% sure you are, I have gotten through hard times by writing. Nobody is there to judge, and while writing, I often discover things about myself that I didn't realize before. Writing is my one and only refuge from the chaos around me, it is my lifeline.

I also know you are very religious. While I personally don't share that trait, the rest of my family does, so i know a lot. I'm guessing you probably are praying a lot, but i know some people are able to have conversations with a higher being such as god through meditation. I meditate a lot, it's very cleansing after a stressful evening. You can do this anywhere, as long as it is quiet, dimly lit, and quiet. sit in any comfortable way and start to pray. focus on your breathing and how your body is feeling. Repeat this until desired, or until whenever you are able to interperate whatever the universe, or in your case, god is trying to make clear to you.

May i ask how you are dealing with all of this currently?

The distinguished Siling-La spake:

The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:[quote]The distinguished Siling-La spake:The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:Welcome to Therapy! What would you like to talk about? This is a safe space.

Family problems I'm having. Is that okay to talk about here?


yes. What's going on? My family is a mess at the moment as well, so you aren't alone in that.


It's mostly my father. He is a good father, but not a good dad. He is a workaholic, he doesn't listen to me, and he constantly forces his ideas on me, and forces me to make decisions that I would never make. He also expects me to be at his beck and call, and to be ready to drop anything at any given moment just to do what he wants. My little sister seems to hate me. She is sassy and rude to me almost all day, but when she wants something from me, she is amazingly nice. As soon as she gets what she wants though, she goes back to sassy and rude, and she avoids me until she wants something from me. If I tell her no, or tell her to stop being rude, she immediately goes to my mother, and convinces her to make me cooperate with her, or she tells my mother that I am being rude, and I get punished while my sister rubs it in my face while getting what she wants. I've tried to talk to my parents about her attitude towards me, but they dismiss it, or laugh. I don't understand.[/quote]



I can definitely relate, siling. My Dad Is only there for me and my sister when it is convenient to him. he works from home, yet still seems to have no time for me. it hurts. i try to explain it all to him, but it goes right through him. he won't listen. I am going through a court case rn to try and stop the visits to his house [my parents are divorced, btw] My litte sister is very unpredictable. she can be super sweet one minute and hate you the next. she's extremely sassy too, haha. I find the best way to deal with this is to not show her how much it bothers you. eventually she'll get bored and stop. My mom is very angry. she's been a victim of abuse, and can't handle stress well.. There's a lot of stress at home right now, and it's miserable. When I talk to her she snaps at me to leave her alone. If you don't already have one, try to find a family therapist to work out your issues with. If your family doesn't want family therapy, you could always choose individual therapy, which is just someone you can vent to confidentially. please don't try to bottle your emotions up, as it is extremely overwhelming when they all explode at once.

Best Wishes-

* Liz *

The distinguished dsipro.. spake:

The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:[quote]Welcome to Therapy! What would you like to talk about? This is a safe space.

me cat ran away me depressed[/quote]


did you find the fleeing feline?

The distinguished Siling-La spake:

The distinguished dsipro.. spake:[quote]The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:Welcome to Therapy! What would you like to talk about? This is a safe space.

me cat ran away me depressed


My cat just died. [/quote]



So, should we make a thread devoted to cat issues?
ps: did you find your cat?

The distinguished Siling-La spake:

The distinguished heaven.is.a.joke spake:[quote]Welcome to Therapy! What would you like to talk about? This is a safe space.

Family problems I'm having. Is that okay to talk about here?[/quote]


yes. What's going on? My family is a mess at the moment as well, so you aren't alone in that.

Welcome to Therapy! What would you like to talk about? This is a safe space.

The distinguished ValentinD spake:

I'm a lot depressed... The pain it's on me, and... i just want to make a end to my life...

I understand how u feel. if u ever want to talk, pm me. i'm going thru the same exact thing